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It’s funny how life works.
Just recently I was asked to give a presentation on how to build, maintain and sustain confidence, I’ll share with you some of the highlights of that process below.
Putting together that presentation got me thinking back to the first time I ever stepped on stage.
That guy, way back in 2010, knew nothing about confidence.
I can honestly say that I remember the feelings I had like it was yesterday because it was in front of five hundred people, my very first time, no easing onto things, huh, and I had very little clue what I was doing.
I got at least one thing right, that I would recommend you do from now on when you thrust yourself into the unknown – get a coach or mentor.
When I got the call to present and take this next leap in my career, I jumped first, looked for a parachute second.
I remember hanging up the phone with Bedros, there was excitement and nerves all at once, so I did the only thing I could think of; I called my mentor to get his advice.
Alex gave me some really good instruction and I felt prepared, but the minute I took that stage most of that went out the window as I began to pace the stage like a caged lion.
Somehow I survived that day and got some good feedback. I guess people hadn’t seen many presenters yet. HA!
I remember most this one thing Alex said to me after the talk. He asked: “how did you feel?” I responded that I “thought I was confident.” And he said something that has always stuck with me, he said” “Vito, don’t just say it, BE it.”
I don’t think it dawned on me until years later the difference between saying something and BEING something. One is momentary and can come and go, but being something means it’s who you have become, who you are.
I know from that day on I wanted to BE confident, not just think I was, feel I was, or hope I was- I wanted to BE it.